So I was inundated for the last few months preparing for my annual event. This year it was held on August 26th at Bailey Farms in Ossining, NY. Leading up to the actual day was actually exciting versus the feelings of anxiety.
As most of you know, I have this thing with “words” because those words can transfer feelings of positivity or negativity. So notice I used the word “exciting” to describe how I was feeling through the duration of preparation. Doesn’t “exciting” sound more positive/uplifting to you? My experience with anxiety has never been positive or healing for me. You see, if I’m anxious, it’s not just a little bit …. I am over the top anxious and the feelings of anxiety and fear paralyze me. That knot in my stomach is almost of addictive nature because that’s where I would take it. Not anymore….
Today I carefully choose my words….”exciting” during this process was uplifting. No knots in the stomach, filled with joy because I was eager to share this day with 25 women. Don’t get me wrong, it was a lot of work and sometimes I felt frustrated things weren’t going my way, but I rose above it.
Now the theme for this year’s event was, “Darling, YOU Are Fabulous….Transforming Your Inner Critic into Self-Confidence”. My inner critic was “TRYING” to kick my ass through those 4 months. After all these years she (inner critic, the little child inside of me) was haunting me with negative thoughts about the event. She kept telling me I wasn’t going to get the 25 women, there would not be enough interest, it wasn’t going to be successful, etc., etc. So I told her to “shut the f*** up and let me do my thing). And I did, and it was AWESOME. In fact, I can say this was my best event and my best talk. And we had fun, lots of fun….we had Dr. Wanda Jeanty share on Gut Health, Sara Sampaio gave a talk on Skincare, Jennifer Marvin took us on a Yoga/Meditation journey that was awesome and Aimee Jett conducted a Creative Arts Workshop. My talk was about the inner critic, shame, self-confidence…and that’s an entirely separate blog to share.
Between the words you choose and your inner critic, life can be quite challenging. It can take you into depression and have you spiral down ~ OR ~ YOU can choose positivity and be the adult to your inner child and tell her, “I got this”….(although my choice of words with my inner child were a lot tougher)…lol! Why do most go down negativity road with the negative words and beating the crap out of ourselves….we’re CONDITIONED, and carry FALSE BELIEFS.
YOU get to choose before you open your mouth and applying the wrong vocabulary to your circumstances; you get to choose your “actions” before taking that first step. So which is it for you?
YAY words or NAY words???? Be wise and accept that if you are conditioned to speak/think negatively, it’s time you spoke with a positive professional to help you get on the other side. It’s your life, it’s always your choice….no shame in being negative, no judgment – sometimes that’s what we were brought up with and we are conditioned. However, now that you are aware, YOU can no longer use your childhood as an excuse to continue acting out. Life is short….I want you to be happy and once you get a taste of that, you will be full of joy and bring that joy to others and a lot more fun to be around. Soooo?????
Above is the video link of our closing ceremony at Sunday’s Women’s Workshop. It still brings tears to my eyes…every time I watch it. The ladies were absolutely amazing, participating, shared a tear or two and lots of laughs.
One of the segments of the Workshop was the coaching game ~ I’m not one to boast and when wrong, promptly admit it. Not that I did anything wrong, but this was a new version I facilitated and I stumbled upon the directions and we had a little confusion…but I learned from it and I know it will be better next time.
Our Yoga therapist, Sarah, was fabulous ~ those moments we seldom experience of pure silence and meditation, were precious. I, for one, do meditate on a regular basis but am now more inclined to experiment with Yoga. The definition of connecting my mind with my soul was calm, peaceful, welcome. My wheels are constantly in motion which is why I need that special time to, slow down, calm the brain cells and connect with my spirit, my soul. It certainly helps with the balance I constantly strive for in my life.
I’m a wife, a mom, a grandma, a networker, a community volunteer, a friend….BALANCE is certainly needed. Without balance, I tend to act on overdrive and overlook the inner champion begging for awareness – awareness that she is in there, very much alive and does not want to be overlooked. She is the spirit and champion that catapults me into my journey and to believe in myself.
My inner champion is overlooked when I reflect on my false beliefs ~ I don’t give false beliefs that power any longer. I’m on a journey with my champion and not allowing any negativity from my past to dominate the positive space I am in today….focusing on my future.
I sure look forward to you joining us for the next Workshop which promises to be the best yet. Stay tuned….chin up, shoulders back and breathe. God bless, please take care. Mucho hugs!
It is hard to believe 6 months have passed since I was last here. 24 little hours in each day sure do fill up very quickly. The winter months were a bit brutal and became challenging to get around, but I opened my new office in Bedford Hills, NY. The area is lovely and the referrals were welcomed as a delightful surprise. I continue to meet Clients from my home and meet with Dutchess County clients at Panera.
One of my Clients recently asked, “Why do you meet with your Clients in 3 separate locations?” I responded, “Convenience”. She was surprised I shared “convenience” for them versus “convenience” for me. I have been in several businesses and have learned one thing, for sure. When you make it all about your Client/Customer and provide a feeling of comfort for them, they are more apt to work with you. Yes, it would be more convenient if they all came to me…and that’s how it usually is for those who offer their services at one location.
Taking my business to another level was not just for my satisfaction, but for the Client as well. I am sure you have heard the expression, “What’s in it for me?” Frankly, the answer to that is “more Clients”. Yet, when my Clients achieve their goals, some wish to check in monthly as opposed to the regularly scheduled three sessions. This check in usually takes place on the phone, but most, prefer to visit in person….thus making it a full schedule.
What’s in it for me? I enjoy the relationships being built within my Practice. Some have referred others, either for individual or group life coaching. My passion for taking someone from “caterpillar” to “butterfly” phase is extremely exciting for me. Day to day relationships, the stepfamily dynamics, transitions in career and divorce, addictions/recovery….they all make up who we are. But when one of these issues dominates our day-t0-day in a negative way, it is rewarding to see the positive side reveal itself….but through their efforts. I also like the fact that I get to travel among 3 different locations and my days go fast and are NEVER stagnant or boring.
So even when something becomes a bit inconvenient for you – and you make it convenient for others, the rewards are priceless. Yes, take care of you, but be there for others. I believe, and always will, “It is better to give than to receive” ~ what goes around, comes around.
If you are looking to feel lighter, learn more about your strengths and weaknesses, move fearlessly onto next stage in life and identify your dream and chart a course for action, schedule your Discovery Session today.
God bless and please take care ~ mucho hugs!
As a little girl, I remember my Mom drilling this message into my sister and I. She owned a bar/restaurant in The Bronx. On a daily basis, there were new faces coming into her establishment … some were friendly, some were not. The message of “stranger danger” was received at an early age, but I don’t think they called it that back in those days.
Recently I accompanied my husband on a business trip to Wildwood, NJ. While he was exhibiting at his trade show, I was on the beach. I was not alone ~ I had my book, my laptop, my iPad and my iPhone. 😉 Not far from me was another woman, alone with her tech toys as well. I never saw this woman before and was compelled to strike up a conversation. “Look at those ocean waves this morning.” She immediately smiled and we started a discussion about how hot the day was, how nice it was to be in Wildwood with the summer crowds behind us, how beautiful the sky was, etc., etc. That was the introduction to becoming familiar with each other.
She shared about where her life was right now ~ she was wealthy but alone. No one to share her riches … an ugly divorce now behind her, with children who abandoned her after a long history of alcoholism, she was very lonely. She got sober 6 months ago and is still repairing the damage done. When I shared I was in recovery myself, she light up like a Christmas tree.
What were the chances of 2 women, never having met before, have so much in common. I explained how making amends in sobriety is a process. The steps in Alcoholics Anonymous are in their order for a reason. Her biggest stumbling block right now is patience ~ you don’t get sober and then all is forgiven from the past. You first need to learn about yourself, why you drank the way you did, and how you got to where you are today and hope for the future. I made sure to let her know how much talking with her helped me ~ it allowed me to reflect on how far I have come in my own journey.
I spoke to a stranger today ~ and what a gift! She reminded me of early recovery and the trials/tribulations I faced, overcame and living a life today that is beyond my wildest dreams. I shared with her how my faith in a Higher Power has become the root of all. We laughed, we hugged and she thanked me for helping her have a brighter outlook on her day. TODAY is a gift, this is why we call it the PRESENT.
Enjoy life ~ talk to a stranger and put a smile on their face. You have no idea what that individual is currently experiencing. A brand new face, a new smile, a new outlook is all someone needs. And when a stranger approaches you, don’t be so quick to push them away ~ be the light! We need an abundance of peace, love and understanding in this world.
And after our talk, ah-h … I was filled with gratitude and returned to watching the beautiful ocean waves coming up on the beach and thinking to myself, “You’ve come a long way, baby.” Peace, Light! Mucho hugs!