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Understand What’s Going On Before Shooting Your Mouth Off

So here is the “book” definition:  Emotions and feelings actually describe two different processes that philosopher William James highlighted – bodily driven ones (emotions) and thinky-driven ones (feelings). Emotions are your subconscious reactions to physical experience – the information from your environment that comes in through your senses (sight, taste, touch).
Emotions are your brain’s split second responses to a situation, and they kick off changes in your body.

Feelings are your conscious reactions expressed in thoughts. They are your mind’s conscious interpretation of the environmental input affecting your body – in other words, feelings are mental experiences of bodily states.
Memory, beliefs and associations play an essential role in feelings, bringing meaning to whatever you’re experiencing.
Understanding the difference helps us take advantage of how the body and mind work together to shape who we are – which is the sum total of how we behave. 

Here’s how I interpret….when someone says or does something that affects us, say in a negative way, our brain sends that signal to our body and we feel emotions.  However, our “feelings” are a reaction to what we think.

Are you understanding the difference or still confused?  I feel it is important to know the difference because so many misunderstandings and quarrels and outright fighting can occur from someone simply saying, “You hurt my feelings”….but in reality, those feelings came from an emotion that may not be accurate.  

I prefer to keep my life “light” and refrain from drama or misunderstood circumstances by not “reacting” to what you say or do that may not be to my liking.  I would rather step back, count to 5, breathe and then “respond” to you.  Makes sense to me….I hope it does to you too.  It just makes life so much easier.



So I was inundated for the last few months preparing for my annual event.  This year it was held on August 26th at Bailey Farms in Ossining, NY.  Leading up to the actual day was actually exciting versus the feelings of anxiety.  

As most of you know, I have this thing with “words” because those words can transfer feelings of positivity or negativity.  So notice I used the word “exciting” to describe how I was feeling through the duration of preparation.  Doesn’t “exciting” sound more positive/uplifting to you?  My experience with anxiety has never been positive or healing for me.  You see, if I’m anxious, it’s not just a little bit …. I am over the top anxious and the feelings of anxiety and fear paralyze me.  That knot in my stomach is almost of addictive nature because that’s where I would take it.  Not anymore….

Today I carefully choose my words….”exciting” during this process was uplifting.  No knots in the stomach,  filled with joy because I was eager to share this day with 25 women.  Don’t get me wrong, it was a lot of work and sometimes I felt frustrated things weren’t going my way, but I rose above it.

Now the theme for this year’s event was, “Darling, YOU Are Fabulous….Transforming Your Inner Critic into Self-Confidence”.  My inner critic was “TRYING” to kick my ass through those 4 months.  After all these years she (inner critic, the little child inside of me) was haunting me with negative thoughts about the event.  She kept telling me I wasn’t going to get the 25 women, there would not be enough interest, it wasn’t going to be successful, etc., etc.  So I told her to “shut the f*** up and let me do my thing).  And I did, and it was AWESOME.  In fact, I can say this was my best event and my best talk.  And we had fun, lots of fun….we had Dr. Wanda Jeanty share on Gut Health, Sara Sampaio gave a talk on Skincare, Jennifer Marvin took us on a Yoga/Meditation journey that was awesome and Aimee Jett conducted a Creative Arts Workshop.  My talk was about the inner critic, shame, self-confidence…and that’s an entirely separate blog to share.

Between the words you choose and your inner critic, life can be quite challenging.  It can take you into depression and have you spiral down ~ OR ~ YOU can choose positivity and be the adult to your inner child and tell her, “I got this”….(although my choice of words with my inner child were a lot tougher)…lol!  Why do most go down negativity road with the negative words and beating the crap out of ourselves….we’re CONDITIONED, and carry FALSE BELIEFS.   

YOU get to choose before you open your mouth and applying the wrong vocabulary to your circumstances; you get to choose your “actions” before taking that first step.  So which is it for you?

YAY words or NAY words????  Be wise and accept that if you are conditioned to speak/think negatively, it’s time you spoke with a positive professional to help you get on the other side.  It’s your life, it’s always your choice….no shame in being negative, no judgment – sometimes that’s what we were brought up with and we are conditioned.  However, now that you are aware, YOU can no longer use your childhood as an excuse to continue acting out.  Life is short….I want you to be happy and once you get a taste of that, you will be full of joy and bring that joy to others and a lot more fun to be around.   Soooo?????